The Essence of Good Erotica for
Women
If
we ignore naked men photos for the moment, my definition of good erotica for
women involves depictions of sex where the woman's pleasure is paramount.
That is - it has to be about HER experience of sex, HER pleasure, and HER
orgasm. Everything else is really just window dressing.
That's not to say that it's not good to have all those other nice things
in your couples photos - kissing, hugging, eye contact, an appearance of
intimacy, a good looking guy, the woman not looking at the camera with a
dick in her mouth... and I usually will pick content that has these
things.
But I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who couldn't care less
about that kind of thing - they just want it down and dirty. Which is
great. Nonetheless, I'm certain every woman would prefer hardcore that
reflected their experience of sex, that focused on the woman's pleasure
rather than the man's, that depicts female - rather than male - fantasy.
And damn, if it isn't a job to find this kind of content. Most of the time
I buy standard sets and manipulate them to be more female friendly - I'll
take out the endless blowjob shots, I'll pick sets with cunnilingus in
them (believe me, cunnilingus is GOOD), I won't buy sets where the model
looks bored or is constantly looking at the camera...
When it comes to naked men - well, I've said here before, I don't find
them arousing and I never have. I like to admire the physique of course,
but it doesn't set off the fireworks. I suspect a lot of women are the
same. And I think Devlynn's thoughts on the gayness of the model is also a
common thing. I've seen mainstream boards where women have dismissed
4women porn as full of gays...
As for lesbian content... I think women love lesbian stuff, it's such a
common female fantasy. But again, most lesbian content is designed for men
- it's all about showing off two pussies (and it usually involves both of
them looking at the camera, inviting the male viewer in to teach them a
thing or two LOL). I'd prefer to see two women wrapped in each other,
giving each other pleasure... a situation where I the viewer could imagine
myself as either one of them...
Actually, I perhaps should add something about that. I suspect women look
at porn in two ways - they are either doing it voyeuristically, or they
are imagining themselves participating in the scene. Either way, they want
to suspend disbelief and imagine that it's real.
The voyeur thing is the main reason I remove photos where the woman (or
the man) looks at the camera. It breaks the illusion that one is peeking
in, and it also proves that the sex isn't real.
The participation angle is linked to the idea of the woman's pleasure.
Most mainstream porn is shot from the man's point of view, which is why we
get so many sets where we rarely see the guy at all, except for his dick.
I am yet to see a set of photos that are taken solely from the woman's
point of view (e.g. the pics are mostly of him and what he's doing to her
pussy). However, I can get that participation angle by choosing content
that shows a more even-handed viewpoint, or that simply captures the
action like a standard hollywood film... it creates a space for the woman
to imagine herself as a player in that action.
Interestingly, the woman looking at camera thing seems to be there for men
to feel involved... it's like there's no scope for the male viewer to put
themselves in the male porn star's place. They have to be an outsider who
is invited in by the gaze of the woman.
A while ago we were discussing the research from Northwestern university
which suggests that women are more likely to become aroused from a variety
of material:
"In contrast to men, both heterosexual and lesbian women tend to
become sexually aroused by both male and female erotica, and, thus, have a
bisexual arousal pattern."
http://www.scienceblog.com/community/article1737.html
I think this is fascinating research, and it proves that women aren't
easily pigeonholed... so this goes back to the main idea - if your porn
(whatever it may be, fetish, lesbian, straight, whatever) is focused on
the woman's pleasure, then it's 4women porn.
- KarenJ, first posted to the Female Webmasters board, 28-7-03
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Example
of Good Erotica for Women:
For
The Girls
An entire women's erotica magazine, For The Girls offers far
more than just naked men (although there's thousands of them to
choose from). This site has specially chosen couples content and
movies, all of which reflects the female erotic experience. On top
of that there's articles, columns, news, sex advice, jokes, humour
and more. This site not only offers sexual satisfaction, but
intellectual entertainment as well.
Pure
Cunnilingus.
Always focusing on HER pleasure, offering carefully chosen couples
sets and good looking naked straight men. More cunnilingus photos
than you can poke a stick at. Erotic fiction written in-house. Articles
and factual items on oral sex, female
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