Quotes about Women’s
Sexuality and Erotica
On
women not being visual:
“The idea that male sexual response is
more easily triggered by [visual stimuli] goes back to the Kinsey Report.
The Kinsey Institute researchers asked women if they were never, seldom or
often sexually aroused by sexual pictures and found they usually answered
“never” or “seldom”. Kinsey’s results may tell us more about the
availability of erotic pictures to women in the 1950s than about the
enduring characteristics of women’s sexual response… Yet Kinsey’s
somewhat dubious conclusions are now taken as axiomatic. The belief that
men are turned on by looking and women are not has become one of the most
widely accepted beliefs about sex differences.”
-
Pleasure, by Margaret Leroy, p. 283
“Patricia Gillan’s experiences with
women suffering ‘disorders of desire’ suggest that the lack of erotic
visual stimuli for women denies us a potentially significant source of
arousal. It is also possible that the availability of attractive erotic
imagery intended for women would go some way towards counteracting the
aversive effects of experiences of abuse…”
“Pleasure in looking could increase
women’s pleasure in sex, and there are certain changes in our sexual
culture that would undoubtedly enhance our arousal – the availability of
erotic imagery intended to please women, and a willingness on the part of
men to be objects of desire.”
-
Pleasure, by Margaret Leroy, p. 290
On the power of looking:
“Looking implies sexual dominance…
Young women are reminded of this every time they walk down the street. He
looks at you, you look away: the old rules still hold, and it feels
dangerous to break them.
“No wonder that men, knowing what
sexual looking is about for them, so fear the looks of women.”
-
Pleasure, by Margaret Leroy, p. 291-2
“There is still a great deal of visual
protection extended to the penis. The erect penis is still totally
forbidden in public display. Images which many women find highly offensive
are permitted in high-street porn, but it is still the erect penis which
makes hard porn hard.”
“As Phyllis Chesler says, ‘Since the
penis is the proof of male existence, the proof of male power, it is too
important and too vulnerable an organ to be displayed publicly –
especially to women.’ The phallus has tremendous symbolic value under
patriarchy as the symbol of male dominance… But it is only because the
real penis is never displayed that the phallus can have such power.
Routinely viewed in its ordinariness, the power of the phallus as a symbol
would crumble.”
“In porn intended for women’s eyes,
the man cannot legally be shown in a state of excitement. The message is
clear enough. The women looking at the picture cannot fantasize that the
man is interested in her. This is not a situation of sexual tension: there
is no promise here of fantasy sexual satisfaction. He is not there for
her, sexually, in the way that the woman in soft porn is there for the
man.”
-
Pleasure, by Margaret Leroy, p. 297-298
“The passivity of the images [in
Playgirl] is universally disliked by women. ‘Men find it attractive to
see a woman lying on a couch with nothing on – so they think to arouse
women they just change the sex of the person on the couch. But a half-clad
man on a horse or chopping wood – a powerful active symbol – might be
more attractive.’”
-
Pleasure, by Margaret Leroy, p. 299
“’The biggest turn-on for me – and
I’m always caught out by it and feel it shouldn’t happen – is a man
asleep. A quite macho man completely asleep, completely oblivious to me
– and it’s the arousing of him in order to do something to me.’ -
Jacqueline”
-
Pleasure, by Margaret Leroy, p. 302
“I am all for photos of naked men being
made available to us in women’s magazines. I wish I’d had them when I
was growing up. Why should men’s genitalia be a mystery? I hope the
opportunity for women to see and enjoy the male nude is not just a passing
fad. It answers a very real sexual need among women… and anything that
does can only reflect beneficially on men.”
-
Forbidden Flowers, by Nancy Friday, 1975, p. 91
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